All children have five primary needs which are inevitably connected to their academic, social and economic success. Bringing up your child in a school, home and environment that meets those needs will improve their IQ, character and overall discipline. It is your responsibility as a parent to make sure that all necessary needs are met.
“My child does not listen to me anymore.’
‘How do I discipline my child?”
“What do I do to be the best parent to my children?”
Being a parent is not easy but no one warned you that it would occupy every second of your existence. We are parents until our last breath. Parents are worried most of the time, even when children grow into adulthood. However, with the right foundation, you will be confident that your baby will make the right decisions and be successful in life.
Thousands of teenagers and young adults in America have confined away from home in the juvenile system every day. Sometimes it is for gross misconducts and there are a few complex cases that involve serious crimes.
Parenting might not be a walk in the park but I can help you become the better parent you want. I will share with you a parenting model that I have seen work for many parents.
You are not alone but you can break the trend and raise your child to be successful, focused and disciplined. Many parents have successfully applied and seen results from the program that I am about to share with you. So, read on.
What are the 5 basic needs of a child?
Parental presence in your child’s life will ultimately shape the person they will become. Parents have the hardest job in the world; ‘shaping another human being to be their best.’ Research shows that your mode of discipline has an outstanding effect on your child’s quality of life.
All over the world, parents are trying to balance giving proper discipline and affection. I often meet parents who are desperately looking for answers and are almost giving up. Parenting hood has affected their marriage, even to the point of wanting a divorce.
Over the years I have come to understand that it is possible, even easy, to discipline your children with love. You can be strict with your kids and still make them happy, without having to carry around a heavyweight of guilt.
If you meet your child’s five basic needs, you are setting them up for success on all fronts. You are arming them to face any storm that life might throw at them.
You are the parent, you are the adult and you must establish that you are in control of yourself and everyone in your home. Therefore, it is essential that you control what comes in or goes out of your child’s life.
‘I say no to my children, but I find myself feeling sorry for them and end up accepting whatever they wanted.’
“I heard my teenage daughter call me a control freak. Now I am confused about whether to just let her do what she wants or confront her on calling me that.”
“What are the five basic needs for my child and how can I meet those needs?”
The dilemma most parents deal with is; how to give control to their children without giving it all up? How do you give your children some power over their day-to-day activities while maintaining your position as the parent?
The goal is to teach your children to control their behavior. It is okay to sit back and watch what they will do in certain situations. However, if you notice any abuse of that privilege, step in and take back the control.
We want our children to be responsible enough to survive on their own when we are not around. We want them to know how to stand up for themselves without being unruly.
So, how do you give your children control and maintain your authority as the parent? What defines a controlling parent?
A controlling parent will always tell their children what to or not to do. A parent who gives control without giving it up gives their children choices and a guide to making the right decision.
When and if your child makes a poor decision, it is your job to take back control and instruct them on what to do.
‘When are you going to clean your room? When are you going to do the dishes? When are you going to finish your homework? By using ‘when’ you are giving them a chance to make a decision. If they give the wrong answer, you take back your control and tell them how and when you want things done.
Note, that in the above questions, you are giving them an option to decide when they will perform a task and not ‘if’ they will do it. There is a difference between asking; ‘are you going to clean your room?’ and ‘when will you clean your room?’
Being alive and experiencing life as a whole is one of the greatest basic needs for a child. Every adult craves to be alive and happy but it all begins in childhood. The way to ensure life is by putting your best foot forward when it comes to your child’s health and environment.
Studies indicate that physical activity and fitness may improve cognitive abilities. Children who engage in active leisure are better in mathematics and sciences. Instead of buying them a range of video games, get them actual toys. For older children, insist on exercise.
The brain is the center of mental and physical responses of the human body. Furthermore, in children, a healthy brain is measured through successful development in memory, attention, academic performance and social habits.
Others ways you can ensure physical health for your children include:
1. Have limits of how much time your child spends in front of the screen (TV, phones, computers, video games).
2. Encourage them to be involved in physical activity every day. If they cannot meet with friends and must stay at home (like in the coronavirus era), get them a rope to jump. Even better, do some aerobics with them.
3. Motivate your children to take the stairs instead of elevators.
4. Engage your children in activities around the house; washing dishes or shoveling snow.
5. Ensure proper dental hygiene. Dental health problems are a leading cause of diabetes, heart disease and oral cancer.
6. Minimize sugar and processed meat and feed your children organic meals including fruits and vegetables.
7. Avoid smoking or using alcohol around your children.
Happy children have higher probabilities of being academically, financially and socially successful. You can influence your children to a life of bliss and happiness.
Friends have a significant effect on your child’s behavior and happiness. That is why you should pay attention to your child’s peers.
It is heartbreaking, every time a young life is lost to suicide or depression. Chronic sadness is the primary cause of suicides and stress among teenagers and young adults. Here are things you can do to ensure your child’s happiness:
Purpose is one of the forgotten but basic needs for a child. Inspire your child to have a sense of purpose. This will motivate them to wake up every day and chase their dreams. It will encourage them to work hard to get what they want.
What does your child want to be when they grow up? What are their views about the world?
To help your child discover their purpose, pay attention to their interests. Whether its the environment, animals, technology etc. As children grow, their interests and goals might change. Moreover, don’t discourage them from changing. Life is a journey and it is by exploring that they will realise their ultimate purpose in life.
Your children need to know that you care about them. Furthermore, they need to be assured that you will always be there for them. Scientific research indicates that parental affection plays a huge role in the physical and mental development of a child.
The best ways to show your child that you care is by ‘listening’ to them and trying to understand their position. You can also attend their events, play with them, tuck them into bed etc.
There is a difference between care and love. While love is a feeling, caring is action.
What are the 10 things every child needs?
When a baby is born, its brain is only about 25% the six of a typical adult’s brain. By their 3rd birthday, their brain has grown to 90 percent. The activity, diet and environment of a child impact their brain’s development.
1. Interactions – Healthy interaction at home opens up your child to experience. This is how they learn how to talk, sing and express themselves.
2. Physical affection – Cuddle with your baby and play with them. Additionally, as they grow up, show them, love through hugging, rubbing their hands and kissing them.
3. Stable relationship – Provide your child with a stable relationship to improve their self-esteem, trust and security.
4. Safe and healthy environment – Do everything you can to prevent home accidents and provide a safe home for your kids. Also, keep away questionable relatives from coming into the house.
5. Encourage reading – Spare time to read with your children. This teaches them that loving books and learning is good.
6. Engage in constructive conversation – Communicate with your child about various issues, from a young age. It will help increase their general knowledge while developing their speech abilities.
7. Strong self-esteem – Cultivate a sense of confidence and self-validation in your children. Teach them that they can love and appreciate themselves.
8. Create music – Make music with your children to stimulate brain activity. Even Albert Einstein used to play the violin as a child. Playing music will also help improve their linguistic and reasoning abilities.
9. Playtime – Encourage playtime with your child. The more they play, the more they will be creative and intelligent.
10. High-quality healthcare – If you are not always around to be a full-time parent, then get the best childcare for your young ones.
The Importance of Meeting These Needs
Asking yourself, what are the basic needs for a child to prepare them for anything in life. They grow up knowing how to celebrate their successes and rise up after a defeat.
There will be times when you will have to discipline your child. It is normal to disagree with your children once in a while. What matters most is how you establish control. Being too harsh might send a message to your child that you don’t care for them.
Your child has been watching tv the whole day and hasn’t done their chores. Discipline could be something like ‘I care about you but you have been watching tv the whole day and haven’t completed your chores. That has to change.’ End the discussion by asking ‘What will you do about that?’
How to be the best parent you can be
Being a parent is the most challenging job on the planet. Different children have varying needs and it is your responsibility to cater to every one of them. Still, most parents will agree that one of life’s greatest achievements is seeing your children grow into healthy, happy and successful adults.
Most parents ask me. “What are the basic needs for a child? Can I meet those needs without spoiling them?”
The best parents are those who take action to ensure health and success for their children. Additionally, our input will affect how your child perceives all aspects of life.
What have you done to position your children for success? How do you make sure their day-to-day activities are building them up to be smart, successful and kind?
Will your child be successful in life? What are the five basic needs your child requires to be emotionally, physically and mentally stable? If you follow my guide, you have a higher chance of raising happy children, who have a sense of purpose.
It is possible, to raise a responsible and disciplined child in a free, loving and happy environment. I know that from all the parents I have dealt with.
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